Beyond I do
Beyond I do

Michigan

Krista & Jami

Transcript

Jami: I am Jami Contreras.

Krista: Uh, Krista Contreras. And we are in Michigan.

Jami: We decided to get married when we were talking about having kids. The question came up, ‘Well, shouldn’t we be married first?’ Because we’re both pretty traditional when it comes to that.

Krista: After we got legally married, it all sunk in, like, ‘This is a big deal!’

Jami: The ceremony was a blast. We had thirty of our closest family and friends, and it was validating.

Krista: It was just this surreal moment of: hi, my dreams are coming true!

Jami: When we found out that we were pregnant, we were just elated. So, Bay was born. The next day we set the appointment, and then we were just sitting there waiting for the pediatrician, and another doctor walked in who we had never seen before. And she said, “The pediatrician decided she won’t be taking you on as a client.”

And Krista and I just kind of looked at each other, like, “What?”

And she said, “It doesn’t matter to me. I have a lot of gay families that I help.”

Inside, I just remember feeling terrified. Sitting there in that small, cold room, I wanted to cry just thinking, ‘What did we just do? Like, what did we just bring this kid into?’

Krista: Honestly, in that moment, where like your heart just sinks into your stomach. We are a lesbian couple, but she’s just a baby. She’s the one you’re denying the service to.

Jami: It happened to a six-day-old baby. It could happen to anybody.

Krista: With all of this, why would we choose to live in Michigan?

Jami: It’s our home, and I don’t think we should be forced to leave our home.

Krista: We’re simply asking that you treat our family the same way you would treat any family.

Hear their story
75% buffered
00:00
Michigan

Michigan is one of the 31 states that legally discriminates against people like Krista and Jami.

See the laws

Imagine being denied medical treatment because of who you are. Now imagine it happening to your child. This happened to Jami and Krista’s six-day-old daughter, simply because she has two moms.

The doctor didn’t even come to the office that morning because she didn’t want to see us.

Baby’s first checkup. This was an exciting and happy time for new parents Jami and Krista, a loving couple who were thrilled to be starting their family. But when the couple took their six-day-old daughter to her newborn checkup, they were informed their pediatrician refused to see them. “We were told the doctor didn’t even come to the office that morning because she didn’t want to see us,” they recall.

Their newborn baby was refused treatment by a Michigan pediatrician because she has two moms. And it was completely legal.

Jami and Krista themselves might have expected to be discriminated against because they are lesbians, but they never imagined that their baby would be punished because of it. Jami shared her frustration, “We’re not your patient—she’s your patient. And your job is to keep babies healthy, and you can’t keep a baby healthy who has gay1 parents?”

We’re not your patient—she’s your patient. And your job is to keep babies healthy, and you can’t keep a baby healthy who has gay parents?

Jami and Krista’s only concern was making sure their child was safe and healthy. But now they feel like they have to out themselves every time they speak to a doctor to ensure their daughter’s care won’t be compromised. It’s an onerous and frustrating process, one that opposite-sex couples don’t have to worry about, but like any parents, they’ll do anything for their child.

Michigan is one of 31 states where it’s legal to discriminate against LGBT2 Americans. That means they can be fired from their jobs, evicted from their homes, or, in baby Bay’s case, denied services like standard medical treatment because of who they are, or who their parents are.

Everyone has the right to marry. Not everyone has basic rights.

1Gay

“Gay” is an adjective used to describe people whose enduring physical, romantic, and/or emotional attractions are to people of the same sex.

2LGBT

LGBT is a common acronym that stands for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender.

Laws

Michigan is one of 31 states in this country that doesn't fully protect LGBT people from discrimination in employment, housing, and public accommodations.

3

Michigan has passed 3 laws that actively harm LGBT people.

Learn more

In Michigan, LGBT people ...

  • Can be fired or denied a promotion

  • Can be evicted from their homes or denied housing

  • Can be denied service at public establishments, denied medical treatment, or even kicked out of restaurants or businesses

Michigan

9.9 Million

Michigan’s total population

294k

294,015

Total LGBT population

30% Of LGBT population raising children

31%

Of LGBT population raising children

Explore the map for LGBT stories & facts from each of the 31 discriminatory states.

Has protections
Recent changes to protections
Discriminatory states
Audio stories